A South Australian girl has been horrified by her ex-husband’s invasion of her privateness and doesn’t know the best way to make him cease.
Welcome to Sisters In Law, information.com.au’s weekly column fixing all your authorized issues. This week, our resident attorneys and real-life sisters Alison and Jillian Barrett from Maurice Blackburn advise on the best way to shield your privateness from a snooping ex.
I separated from my husband final yr and we’re simply finalising the phrases of our divorce. We not stay collectively and I’ve began courting different folks. I noticed my ex a couple of weeks in the past and he made a sly dig about one of many guys I used to be seeing and it made me surprise how he knew about him.
After a little bit of detective work later I realised my Facebook account was nonetheless related to my ex-husband’s iPad and he’d been studying my personal messages – a few of which had been steamy. My ex denies it but it surely’s the one option to clarify how he knew about my new man.
How can I make my ex sign off of my account and is there something I can do about him invading my privateness? – Kara, Vic
We perceive this might be fairly distressing Kara to really feel that your ex-husband has invaded your privateness.
Even although your ex has denied it, the excellent news is you could acquire proof of exercise in your account. You can overview your “Logged Actions and Other Activity”, together with any energetic periods by way of your Activity log in your Settings and Privacy controls. This will present on what machine/s you might be logged in, and after they had been accessed.
You ought to instantly change your password in your account and sign off of all units by way of the energetic periods choice on Facebook. You can do that from your personal machine, and don’t should get entry to your ex’s iPad.
You’ve talked about that a number of the messages had been ‘steamy’. If the messages included photographs of an intimate nature and he has distributed these, or threatened to distribute them then which may be a legal offence and you need to converse to the police.
“Distributing” or “threatening to distribute” isn’t simply restricted to your ex posting photographs on social media or emailing your pals/ household, it additionally contains displaying the pictures to his mates at work or the pub.
Some different tricks to shield your privateness can embrace:
1. Disable any location sharing or GPS monitoring in your cellphone, resembling Find My app from Apple or Family Sharing.
2. Creating a brand new e mail account.
3. Change all your passwords and use go phrases that can be troublesome for them to guess, or a password generator app that randomly generates a code, relatively than pets or members of the family names.
4. Enable two-factor authentication – this requires two methods of proving your id, resembling your password after which a code texted to your cellphone.
5. Change passwords on any sensible audio system as these might be related to your ex’s units and could also be able to unlocking doorways or giving data.
6. Changing your safety questions on web sites resembling your financial institution as typically your ex will know your mom’s maiden identify, first pet’s identify, or the place you had been born.
You can even attain out to the eSafety Commissioner, the Australia Cyber Security Centre or importantly the police for additional recommendation or help, notably for those who ever really feel your security could also be in danger.
This authorized data is normal in nature and shouldn’t be considered particular authorized recommendation or relied upon. Persons requiring explicit authorized recommendation ought to seek the advice of a solicitor.
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